Life needs purpose; our everyday needs to have a purpose. Without purpose we are void of an important aspect of what it is to be human. The basic truth of life is that we are on a planet which is travelling around something that burns (the Sun) and we are held down by gravity which science doesn’t understand and we have no real idea what it is all about. So we give life a meaningful point. In a sense it doesn’t matter what the meaning is, we have to a reason to live. If we don’t have a meaning for living, the enormity of the answerless questions would fry our ego mind. So much so, that for many people, life might become unbearable. Most of us need something to believe in, not always in a religious or spiritual sense, but to have a reason for living. Something connects within us when we have purpose. Getting out of bed in the morning is a joy; a light shines in our eyes.
I have two questions you might like to answer. These questions are very useful for helping find a motivation for living your best life:
- What don’t you like about the world?
Often what bugs you the most is what you were born to play a part in changing for the better. What you don’t like in others might be a root for change in yourself. Often your personal challenges are the inoculations for your fight for the bigger picture of your life. It’s as if the challenges we experience make us tougher for our service in this lifetime. Understanding what we don’t like about the world, gives us clues to why we decide to be born. It not that you have to solve this issue alone, but this annoyance is a work in progress to accept it, or do something to bring more love towards it.
- What are you doing when you like yourself the most?
Now I do like a nice slab of cheesecake, but cheesecake doesn’t make me like myself. I am not a big fan of going to the gym but the gym does make me like myself. I feel a sense of achievement, in fact I would go as far as to say, I like myself when I am suffering.
Think of as many things as you can that make you like yourself and list them. Be mindful of not writing things that simply make you happy. Often what makes you happy becomes unfulfilling. What makes you like yourself will always sustain you. When you look in the mirror you like what you see when you have lived a life that has made you feel good about being who you are.
These two questions and their answers are often enough to start to open to your life’s purpose and what you were born to do. You might find you are already on the right path, or that some of the choices you have made in your life start to make sense. It might be that you always find yourself in relationships and friendships where you are healing the person. Only to discover that you like yourself the most when you are helping people, but you would rather not have this in your personal life. Whatever you signed up for in the contract of your life’s purpose you can change! Imagine if life really did start with a form, you could go back to the form and change the boxes you ticked. I believe though intention you can change what isn’t working for you. So you can do your life’s work without it taking over the whole of who you are. After all life isn’t only about purpose, it’s about finding the joy too :)