If it’s a man’s world, why would I be giving away 20 mins of my own time to support men finding their power? You would think that my focus would be on empowering women, after all I am one! If you’re a guy you have a life of being able to experience male supremacy, you get all the breaks and even more so if you happen to be white! Have I gone nut, over nuts?!! According to the Samaritans, Male suicide rates are on average 3-5 times higher than female rates and men aged 30-44 are the group with the highest rate. Why?
Due to my clients I have seen an interesting social shift I don’t think many people have spotted. So let me explain the shift and then you will see why I wanted to act upon my findings. Forgive me for making some on mass generations here and being very heterosexual, I am speaking as I find in awareness that ‘not one size fits all’.
35 to 45 year olds were born into a generation of man bashing. The female members of my family would tell me how awful men were. When you believe something to be true, you look for evidence that the belief is correct. It wasn't only girls who heard this man bashing, the boys did too! I have witnessed that this has created an astonishing generation of amazing fathers and family men, with wives and female partners who never expected the relationship to last, and have been poking men, waiting for the cracks to show. Many men are hanging into unhappy partnerships for the sake of their children. So that’s one reason I want to support men, because the men I am thinking of, are the Dad’s we always wanted. I have been very moved by the love and effort I am witnessing.
Daddy man, I salute you!
The world needs leaders now more than ever. Yet because of the guilt of the male supremacy, many brilliant empathetic men are not shining, because they don't want to become a w**ker. There is a big difference between ego w**ker power, and people who use power to aid a cause and make a change. If you can’t step into any power for fear of being seen to be a w**ker, then guess what… the w**kers will rule the world! In Ron Johnson’s book The Psychopath test, he deducted that many people in positions of power were un-empathic psychos. Scary! I want to empower the men who have lost their male mojo as they don’t want to be masculine dominate. This shows up in all kinds of ways. You might not even know this is you, but you find yourself not getting the breaks you are working hard for, being over looked and a general state of stuck!
Conscious leader - world changer man, I salute you!
Now there is another reason for all of this, and its women! I heard SO many of my female clients who can’t find a man as equally strong or stronger than herself. A woman has an attraction to a man in his power. This is why Monica Lewinsky was walking on her knees in the Oval office! It all goes back to who can protect the family from the neighbouring tribe and bring home the kill. Women love a man serving his purpose more than she wants him to serve her. No matter what you might think, when a man serves a woman as his main mission in life, it only earns her disrespect. However men keep being made to feel guilty about being a man in all sorts of ways. Especially to be a man with emotions, so men are falling down a gap between ‘man-up’ and ‘you need to be able to talk’ oh and have an appreciation of fine shoes and haircuts… just not too much or you’ll be accused of being gay.
Lover man who can carry his woman into the bedroom, ravishes her until she is open and loses her senses, I salute you!
So why me?
Just call me the man whisperer! One of my male friends once told me that I don’t talk like a woman, I talk like a man. I thought it an odd thing to say, however most of my career path in my early years was around men. I worked as a lighting election, packed trucks, drove trucks, raced banners and had motor bikes. I have also watched and analysed men. For example, did you ever notice that two men hardly ever sit directly facing each other in conversation? This is why most relationship conversations happen in cars! I’m not a Tomboy, never have been, but I have a grasp on what is going on for men at this time in our society. With this insider awareness, it makes sense for me to put it to use. Of course stereotypically men hardly ever ask for directions unless they trust the source. This is why I am introducing what I can do in 20mins to create clear vision for a man to make his next move in life, focused!
Mine is an invitation to men who feel they could be so much more, and to the women who love them and wondered when their support on deaf ear's turned into nagging!