Why your boundaries don't work

Why is it we date or meet the same the same kinds of people, or why we have patterns of events that play out in our lives - such as always getting bullied at work, or always being the person that supports the underdog, or always being the person who makes sure the birthday card is signed by everyone, but who never gets a card on their birthday. Or you’re always the person everyone turns to, but when the chips are down for you, no-ones around. They say ‘build boundaries’ and yet if you have tried… they don’t work. ‘Why is it that people push your buttons, step over your boundaries or simply act in a way towards you that shows zero respect. It’s time for the most effective change of your life.

Morning meditation for an intuitive day

Enjoy!

Use your intuition and start the day right.

In the past few years there has been an increase in the use of the word intuitive. This increase has been a direct result of the way we describe the intelligent functionality of technology, such as a smart phone or an application. In addition many business people, such as Apple creator Steve Jobs and Virgin tycoon Richard Branson, have credited their success to 'ideas through intuition'. Intuition is no longer seen as something wooly but as a valuable life skill. We have also seen a rise in the popularity of books that talk of 'silencing the mind', revealing the importance of being without ego. You Do Know blends these two subjects together by explaining how to make decisions without ego, therefore making decisions without fear. Many people don't know how to trust their intuition. In You Do Know,

Becky Walsh explains that this is because until now people thought there was only one kind of intuition. Becky has made a revolutionary discovery: that there are two forms of intuition. One form works through ego and the other though love. To back up this realisation she has turned to neuroscience, psychology and spiritual teaching to draw all the pieces together. In addition, Becky explains how interactions without ego-judgement affect us positively in friendship, business, relationships, family and community. This shift will change our world dramatically from both a personal and global perspective, as we realise that intuition is the key to the shift in consciousness that humanity needs to fix the problems we currently face.

My truth about pricing

You know when people say ‘People value things they pay more for’ do you think that’s true? Personally, I love a bargain! I don’t think I value it any less. So here's a bit of history. I used to work for donations. Once they equaled out, that became my rate. As my work grew, I got a book contract with Hay House, I had a radio show on LBC, and I got an incredible reputation, people were always telling me that I needed to put my prices up. Even my clients said it. Other people in the same profession said I needed to go for a long swim into my navel and look at why I was so cheap, they felt it was because I didn’t value myself.

Well, I found a lot of truth in that, so I put my prices up until I winced.

You see the culture of charging a lot for services originates from America. When I lived in America people even thought my wince prices where too low. In the US your health is connected to your income. In the UK, that means you get to buy green juice and not frozen pizza. In the US, low income = no health insurance. You have no idea how much easier business is because of the NHS. You just don’t have the same kind of pressure living in the UK. We can afford not to like the hard sell!

Coaches who are coming through B school are taught that it’s the perception that sells and that the right marketing is worth more than the level of experience in the job. Some of my ex-students change more than I do.

However, there is a simple fact, you can only pay with the money you have in your pocket. What you can't afford you don't get to have. Pricing is hard, it's confusing and to me, it comes down to, do I want to be busy with clients or busy marketing to get a more financially privileged set of clients. The answer for me is obvious. I also know that other therapies charge less money as they keep the client in the chair for a number of months when I can shift someone in one conversation. Which saves you a heck of a lot of time and repeated appointments. That's also why I charge more than the average therapist. I need to be able to afford to live and do the work. Which is why I freelance for the BBC and work other income streams too.

Nowadays, I have full power self-esteem. Full understanding of my value. I am priceless! How I have changed lives for around twenty years couldn’t be counted in money terms. I am the old wise women of this work, with experience that should be paid for. I'm not glossy, I'm authentic and real.

My realisation is this. Yes, I am worth way more than I charge. But MY sense of value in this work isn’t attached to the energy flow of money. It’s charged to the energy flow of connection and transformation. There’s no point in me flicking my hair and saying ‘because I’m worth it’ when good people who need me, but can’t afford me.

My realisation is that I DON”T care if people think ‘she’s cheap she can’t be that good’. I believe when you need help you want it to be the right help and you shouldn’t have to put massive pressure on your finances to get it if you’re already under pressure. I’m not going to drop my prices.

What I am going to do is operate a sliding scale for people who earn under 25k and have no savings. The no saving bit is because I have been stung before. Often the people who tell you they have no money have it tied up in a flat they own in Covent Garden (I’m not kidding) Wealth is often a perception and because of this, you’ll need to have a chat with me on the phone so I can read intuitively what is the best price for you. I think this is the right thing to do. What do you think? I’d love to hear your thoughts.

Lots of love Becky

Replies:

I think your sliding scale is a wonderful idea. As someone who earns under £25k and is on a debt management plan, this kind of thing is a life saver. I want to develop myself and need guidance doing it, but choosing between eating and self development is not something anyone should have to do! Thank you for keeping it so real ❣️

Your email actually made me cry, to hear someone in this profession keeping it so real ♥️ Three years ago I paid a high end coach money I didn’t have, she encouraged me to borrow money off anyone I knew who could lend it to me, I did and it took me two years to pay it back and the only business advice she gave me was to go back to my old career.

Excuse my french but fucking right on Becky !!!

Awesome!

Becky gets emotional about her clients

I was told I should ask people for reviews of my work. So I did and this happened! This has been my third or fourth session with Becky and, as always, she's been spot on. Becky has a gift for understanding/analyzing the issue(s) and giving advice. I always feel much lighter and more vitalized afterwards. Thank you! Tina

Absolutely fantastic! As usual, Becky has come up with some inspiring solutions to help me move forward. It's good to talk to someone who "get's it" and Becky couldn't be more generous with her empathy and creative ideas to help me resolve my short-term problems. Thank you very much for the session! Diane

Becky is absolutely fabulous at getting to the heart of the matter, really shining the light on what needs to be healed and she does it all with such warmth and kindness. Thank you Becky! Frances

Becky has a knack for using her intuition, understanding, and personal experience to relate and put issues into perspective. Michelle

Talking to Becky today was reassuring. She has a kind compassionate heart but is also no nonsense. Becky will tell it as it is, which means that you will get alot of insight and alot of work done in one session. She is clear and concise with good practical solutions that you can move forwards with. All in all I would recommend Becky if you want to cut to the chase and have clear, empowered support. Lucy

Thoroughly enjoyed the session with Becky. Straight in to the challenge I face - Becky's work lies somewhere between a warm comfort blanket and a kick up the backside. So so useful. Thank you! Cherry

Becky was extremely helpful :-) OMG - It was like she was in my head! In my session, she helped me understand how I could start witnessing myself as ENOUGH. Becky gave me good ideas and suggestions on how I might align more to self love and less with self abuse. I so appreciate her light hearted and compassionate approach in our session. I would highly recommend a session with this lovely lady. Mary

Step into your authentic heart power

I don’t know about you, but I’ve been wondering at what is going on as I watch the chaos unfolding in the world. At the same time as it looks like we may be going to hell in a handbag, something new is opening up! Individual, personal, awakened heart-centered power! It's in our psychology to avoid being disliked. If you were kicked out of the tribe because the leader didn't like you, you would die in the cold.

Times have changed and so is our evolution. Now of you stand back and wait for the community to make the change you may be too late! Heartfelt leaders who don't have feel ready or powerful are what's needed to change the course of our world.

Find your emotional resilience!

Resilience is the ‘rubber ball’ factor: the ability to bounce back in the event of adversity and the ability to know yourself well enough to avoid the triggers that can cause mental and emotional issues. Put simply, resilience is the ability to cope with and rise to the inevitable challenges, problems and setbacks you meet in your life. https://www.amplesouthwest.com/emotional-resilience-training/

Emotional Intelligence (EQ) is how we understand and control our own emotions and how we empathise and work with the emotions of others. Let’s be honest, in working situations, there are a number of factors that can add to your stress: workload, time frames, feeling like you’re out of your depth. And yet the number one stress trigger is often other people! Learning how to deal with your own emotions and other people’s emotions means you can create a happy work environment and also get what you need from teams, stakeholders and customers.

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Having a normal reaction to a f*ed up world.

Yes, mental ill health is a conversation we need to be having. However, I have to say that not every negative emotion or thought implies there is something wrong with you.

In fact, I'd say the opposite. I'd say you are feeling, caring and above all AWAKE!

The simple truth is we are designed for simpler lives. I've lived in big cities and enjoyed my sense of self-importance, running on adrenaline and cold coffee telling everyone 'I'm busy'. to go home to a sense of emptiness and utter dread that I might, after all, be found out to 'not be enough'. How the hell are we supposed to be enough when we live in a society that demands so much of us?

You are not f*ed up, you are having a normal reaction to a f*ed up situation. 

I teach emotional resilience because the one thing that will drive you into oblivion is caring too much about others opinion of you. The truth is they are not looking at you. And when they do look, it's in comparison to themselves. When you get a clear idea of who you are and your purpose in the world you are unstoppable. In addition when you get a clear idea of who you really are you will love yourself, and when you do you won't want this crazy kind of lifestyle. You'll choose a peaceful way of drawing to you everything you need because the desire is coming from a clean place. 

It's time the sensitive caring people stopped believing there is something wrong with them and took the reins from the psychopaths and narcissists that sit in power. 

A shift in consciousnesses is a shift in leadership. 

Removing past trauma blocks

In my work with clients over the past twenty years, I have seen how trauma presents itself in some cunning ways. Blasts of anxiety, having ‘out of proportion’ reactions to events and situations. 

A good example of this, is if someone had a violent home life as a child, they tend to be controlling of their environments as an adult and make difficult flat mates! 

Being British we tend to down play everything, that ‘Keep Calm and carry on’ attitude may have worked during a time of trauma, however, once the trauma has past healing must begin. The ONLY way to heal ANYTHING is truth. 

Yes, truth is subjective, and yet until you look at your story and that the power it had over you away, real healing doesn’t stand a look in. 

Be brave and find someone to share with who knows how to hold the space for you. 

Gut Brain, the Heart Brain and Your Intuition

Did you know there is two forms of intuition? Transcript - I'm sure you have heard people say: 'I feel it in my stomach' 'I always go with my Gut'. You might even say that yourself. But logically we still like to believe the best decisions come from the logical brain, but did you know you have two other brains and one of them, is in your gut! Embedded in the lining of the intestines, is the enteric nervous system, with hundreds of millions of neurons - one thousandth the number in your brain. Gut neurons communicate with the brain through the vagus nerve, which runs from the base of the brain to the chest and abdomen. This 'gut reaction' evolved to protect us from danger. Using the gut we could sense predators before we saw them with our own eyes. The clearest connection between the gut and the mind is how we experience anxiety and stress. A gut instinct is when we have a reaction to something we may find fearful. This information from your gut intuition will be sent to the head brain for action. The Reptilian brain, which is in charge of keeping the body safe.

It reacts to hostile or frightening situations. Its normal way of dealing with fear can be well remembered using five Fs: Flight - Run away, get out of there. Fight - Stand still and I'll give you a bunch of fives. Freeze - Most animals and insects do this; they keep still and play dead or are paralyzed with fear. Food - Give the body energy to be able to cope with the situation. Fornicate (Yes there is another F we could use here!) - We have a strong desire for sex for the procreation of the species. Think about the baby boom after the war, or make up sex after an argument. Whatever the brain decides the gut will send blood to the arms and legs in case we want to fight a predator or run like hell. Of course now stressful situations are unlikely to be caused by a predator, but our bodies reactions can be the same. Making decisions through this form of intuition means that we make choices out of fear or defence. There are, in fact, two forms of intuition as I write about in my book 'You DO Know - learning to act on intuition instantly'. The second form of intuitive knowing is often discounted because it has no words. It is rooted in emotion. For example, when we have an excited, expansive feeling and we simply know, we may not understand why we know, we just know. This second intuition centre comes from your heart.

The heart has its own independent nervous system. Like the gut there are at least forty thousand neurons (nerve cells) in the heart. This is as many as are found in various subcortical centres of the brain. Following this heart lead intuition can lead to remarkable life changes, as your decisions become about the expansion of who you are rather then limiting yourself to avoiding pain or fearful situations. On a personal level of using heart-based intuition means you can make quicker decisions about what is right for you, which also means less stress. It also means that you can open your heart more widely to people as you know who you can trust, making it the intuition to follow for love. Next time you hear 'follow your heart' 'Trust your gut' you will understand it's not a brainless act after all.

The power of your interdisciplinary mind

Often misunderstood as ‘the Jack of all trades and the master of none’ the person with an interdisciplinary mind could be a profound master, if only they didn’t get bored and move on so fast! In fact, it’s likely that a person with an interdisciplinary mind will produce the equivalent of somebody else’s version of their ‘life’s work’ over a dozen times in their life time. So what is an interdisciplinary mind?

What makes authors like Anita Moorjani feel most alive.

Speakers/authors from around the world coming together to bring some of their wisdom and ideas to you. How you can make your life feel richer than it already is! Full film staring: Mike Dooley - Author and speaker on film ‘The Secret' John Purkiss - Author of: Change from within Dr Joe Dispenza - Author of: You are the placebo Becky Walsh - Author of You Do Know Phil Parker - Creator of the Lightening process Pam Grout - Author of: E Squared Anita Moorjani - Author of: Dying to be me Dr David Hamilton - Author of: I heart me Janey Lee Grace - PR media and skills coach Michael Neill - The Inside-Out Revolution Robert Holden - Author of: Lovability Sandy Newbigging - Author of: Mind Calm Jessica Ortner - Author of: The Tapping Solution Lorna Byrne - Author of: Angels In My Hair Nick Williams - Author of: The work we were born to do

What's a truth that blew your mind?

Hay House author experts give their insights. Full film staring: Mike Dooley - Author and speaker on film ‘The Secret' Dr Joe Dispenza - Author of: You are the placebo Becky Walsh - Author of You Do Know Phil Parker - Creator of the Lightening process Pam Grout - Author of: E Squared Anita Moorjani - Author of: Dying to be me Dr David Hamilton - Author of: I heart me Michael Neill - The Inside-Out Revolution Robert Holden - Author of: Lovability Jessica Ortner - Author of: The Tapping Solution

Experts explain how to not let fear stop you

Hay House author experts talk about fear. Ok, I get it, fear sucks; it makes you feel weird and your tummy goes tight. We associate fear with some really bad things, the ‘I got home ok’ call that doesn’t come, finding a foreboding lump, losing your job when you have kids to feed. We fear things that often haven’t and might never happen. When it comes to living your dreams we fear success, failure and looking stupid. Fear is normal; it tells us that what we are doing matters. You will never be clear of fear for any great undertaking you ever do; the trick is to do it anyway. The emotional rewards and personal transformation would not be possible without the existence of the fear in the first place. Use fear as a motivational tool , it proves you’re human… Congratulations! It matters!

Full film staring: Mike Dooley - Author and speaker on film ‘The Secret' Dr Joe Dispenza - Author of: You are the placebo Becky Walsh - Author of You Do Know Phil Parker - Creator of the Lightening process Pam Grout - Author of: E Squared Anita Moorjani - Author of: Dying to be me Dr David Hamilton - Author of: I heart me Michael Neill - The Inside-Out Revolution Robert Holden - Author of: Lovability Jessica Ortner - Author of: The Tapping Solution

Random anxiety attack for no reason

Have you ever had a random anxiety attack for no reason? Well, it seems to be happening more and more to people. Let's face it, if you don't feel like that from time to time you might just not be listening! The world can be a complex place. This short Vlog is to help you get over it FAST and to use your intuition as you inner phycologist!