A friend gave me a great analogy about grief. She said it's like a circle inside a square in your chest. When the loss is new, the circle touches the sides of the square. As it gets older the circle gets smaller. It still bangs around as you move through life and every time it touches the edge if feels like it’s new again. The circle gets smaller and hits the sides of the square less and less.
The circle never goes away and it can hit the sides unexpectedly, leaving you fighting for breath.
Even though it hurts, you learn that you'd rather live with the circle than without it. It's a magnifying glass that opens the insights on all your memories and all that love you had. Because the pain of loss wouldn't be there is it wasn't for the love, and it's worth it, it's so worth it.